To Earn Money or To Be A "Good" Wife?
  Globalization has brought great changes to peoples´ life all over the world.It speeds up the mobility of the society, affects the quality of marriage, benefits people a lot, and gets people into greater trouble at the same time. In one word, It puts people in a dilema.
  Last year, I was staying in Shanghai for my graduate study. Once I travelled by train with a director of a foreign company to Hangzhou for business purpose. On the train, I met a philippino,a woman named Julie. We takled for a while casually. From the conversation, I knew that She was working in the Shanghai branch of an Israil company,whose headquater is lacated in New York and that she wanted to learn Chinese very much. So I offered to help her, and we exchanged our phone numbers.
  Two months later, I recieved a phone call from Julie. From that day on, I became her Chinese tutor. Later on, we became very good friends.She would visit me every weekend for Chinese learning.Gradually, our topics began to involve a lot of things, including each others´ families.Julie has been married for twenty years. She had a son, who was studying in college, and a daughter, who was only two years old. Her husband has been out of work for three years, so his job was to take care of their little daughter. One year after she gave birth to her daughter, she was emplyed by the Israil company and came to China.Julie was strong and determined. It was the good payment that had attracted her to China, though her daughter really needed her at that time. Whereas, she was a responsible mother, too. She would post back some money to her husband every month, which was 90% of her salary. Financially, she was the backbone of her family. In order to earn more money, she took great efforts to learn Chinese.
  But one night, a shrieking phone call wakened me up. It was Julie. Her vioce at the other end was trembling. What made her so sad and angry? It was her husband,she told me. She called her home that night, the one who answered the phone was not her husband. It was a woman with a young voice.
"How did your husband explain?" I asked her.
  "He said it was the meal-sender." Julie answered.
  "Do you want to divorce him if she is the other woman?" I asked her.
  "I don´t know." she stopped for a while--"you know, I have a little baby."
  As a mother, Julie made the same choice as most Chinese women would do. She tried to convince herself that it was the meal-sender, and so she believed.
  As we know, on the one hand,Julie was a good mother. She sent back every cent she earned back home. On the other, it seemed that She had not been a "good" wife since she could only go back her own country once a year. Her husband needed her, or more directly, her husband needed a woman.
  I had tried to persuade her to find a job in her own country. But she said she could only find lower-paid jobs there and she must not lose the good opportunity to work in China.
  More and more people choose to go to some other countries to work, though such a choice could separate family members. Globalization make peoples´ life evole every day. How could marriage function in the future under such circumstance? To earn money or to stay at home to be a good wife, which one is wiser? no one really knows.